I can’t help it. I have some “down home country roots”, and I have been known to call the mouth a “pie hole”. And if mama got upset with the way you we were talking, or I was arguing with my siblings, she may say, “close that pie hole.” Jokingly I even kid around with my own young children and instead of saying, “shut up”, which we don’t really like that phrase, I rather say, with some humorous intent, “shut your pie hole.” The kids would usually quiet down and then chuckle.
Sometimes all of us may benefit from closing our own “pie hole” more often than not, and do a bit more listening and little less talking…
“Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.” – Proverbs 17:28
As I have gotten older, worked many years in corporate America, served is variety of ministries, and raising children; I have learned it is much better to do more listening than speaking.
There is a good saying, “God gave you two ears, and one mouth for reason.” I also like what Stephen Covey taught in one of his books, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” The Bible also teaches to be “slow to speak, and slow to anger.”
People may often not care how much you may know, until they know how much you may care. You may often show how much you care by just listening, holding your peace per say, take in what is being said, be patient, polite, and as empathetic as possible before speaking or reacting. Trust me, it can go a long way in all types of relationships and interactions.
People knowing me in my much younger years knew me as quite the talker, just ask my high school friends, (being in sales also has something to do with that). Now, people say I can be rather quiet at first, especially first meeting me and getting to know me. Now, and over the last decade or so, I like to listen more, and better understand the other people in my life. I’d like to think it may be because I have gotten a little wiser with age, and with God’s teachings.