Dining Room Table Discussions…

DINING ROOM TABLE DISCUSSIONS: When was the last time you & your children sat down at the dinning room table & had enjoyed meal together, talked to one another with all the devices on silent & put away? Personally, just about every time my children & I eat a meal, we eat together at the dinning room table. One thing I make sure we do on our weekend together is have a family meeting & a “Show & Tell”, after we eat. Usually Friday night. Each one of us has the undivided attention of the others as we share something we experienced, or have, or received over the past week or two. Neither person is interrupted as they share, & each one gets a turn. We also discuss things that may be on each others minds, or hearts. Whether it is something that happened at school, home, church, community, or country. We talk about it with grace, & love. The thing is, as parents, our children are facing a lot. News, gossip, rumors arrive 24/7 by the speed of the Internet. Peer pressure & bullying still occur. Our children should be comfortable in having a voice, we as parents should be wise enough to first listen, seek to understand, & then wise & loving enough to advise, & instruct with love.


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Running The Pigs (Pt 1)

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Are we “aggressive” enough?

For the last few weeks, I have heard & seen messages on being an active, engaged, & aggressive believer. From messages at church, things on the radio, verses I read, & topics of some discussions with others of faith.

Why do you suppose prayer was taken out of schools? Why do you suppose how the verdict of Roe vs Wade came to fruition? How do you suppose that we are shortly becoming a nation of Political Correctness or everything that seemed to formerly encompass family values has become offensive? How is it I discover speaking to several believers they cannot remember the last time they led someone to being saved through the belief in Jesus Christ, especially when approximately 80% of the US claim to be “Christian”? How do you suppose the 10 commandments have been removed from many establishments? How do you supposed political leaders are elected more because of their looks, how many movie stars/musical artists they hang around with? How is it now that movie stars & music stars now “speak for the people.” How is it that when I was a child we had gun racks with guns in our pick up trucks but never worried about anyone ever getting shot in school? How is it when I have usually always carried a pocket knife in my pocket that it now alarms people, and a doctors office is demanding I remove it before being seen?

I guess I could go on, but I am not on a political rant. I strive to stay out of political banter. However, I am proud to be an American, I stand for the flag & the national anthem & kneel at the cross. I say yes man, yes sir & strive to respect my elders. I say grace. I gladly go to church to assembly, learn, serve, worship & grow. I say God bless you & I will pray for anyone at any time. I support our Constitution & Bill of Rights. I pay my taxes, strive to provide for my children & pour as much love & wisdom I can into them.

Some of this may offend some people. However, I am neither ashamed, nor apologize for those characteristics of who I am, and to Whom I serve, nor for He Whom I believe created the heavens & the earth, nor the patriot I am, nor the good things my parents taught me. I consider myself neither a “zealot”, “Apologist” nor “religious” To me it is about a relationship, & not religion. I believe a church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints. I believe we are all imperfect human beings saved by grace, belief, acceptance, & repentance. I believe as believers these messages are speaking to me & others to be more engaging, more active, more involved, and yes more aggressive with love, determination, compassion & passion to take action, to stand firm, be courageous & fight the good fight.

~ DW

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What do you say?…

When you first meet someone, one of the typical questions are, “So what do you do?” So what is your typical answer? Mine often goes something like this, “I am a father/brother/son/friend that pours love & wisdom into my children & strives to make a positive impact in other people’s lives” Often I get a pause, or a deer in the headlight look, or better a smile. You see, the questions wasn’t what do you do to earn an income. The questions was, “What is you do?” Making an income just helps facilitate some of what I do. So let me ask you, What is it that you do?

Other than the question people often ask you, other than, “So what do you do?” when you first meet them. They make ask, “How are you doing” Unfortunately, it may often be a rhetorical question in passing. With me, regardless, I may respond with,”I’m learning, serving and growing, because if you are not learning, serving, and growing, you’re not living” If it is someone I know well; I may say, “I am surviving. Would you like to know about some of my techniques as I am interested in learning some of yours” Another response may be, “I am blessed and highly favored.” Again, all of these responses may again get that pause, deer in the headlights look, or a smile. However, with either of these responses, it often opens an opportunity for dialogue for engagement and/or connection with the other person or at the very least, a smile.


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Are you familiar with a “Mission Statement?”

Are you familiar with a “Mission Statement” do you know what “Ikigai” means? Do you have a “Purpose” or know what your “Purpose” is? Do you have a “Vision”, “Goals”, “Aspiration”, “Dreams”? Do you have a personal & family Missional Statement?

ikigaiSome people go through life & may never discover their purpose or “Ikigai” Years ago I began a journey of “self-discovery” Some were provoked by life events, others by questioning what is it I like the most, what is it I may good at, who am I best teamed up with…. So I took the Meyers Briggs Typology Test, (and other Personality, Character, as well as Psychology Tests), I went through a 10 week study by Networks to discover what my Spiritual Gifts are, I even read the 5 Love Languages & took it’s test… I arrived at my purpose & knowing I am a Father, Son, Brother, Uncle, Cousin, Employee, Friend; my purpose is to pour as much love & wisdom into my children & make a positive impact in the lives of others for the Cause of Christ. I strive to launch each day with this understanding & to begin it with purpose, navigate with principles & explore with passion.

I measure my days if I adhered to or did not adhere to this purpose. I took it a step further & discussed & collaborated with my children to discover & write out our Family’s Mission Statement too. I have discovered what I am best at, where I may need to improve, as well as where & whom I need to surround myself with others & their talents & wisdom in areas I lack. (Christ Himself was surrounded by 12 disciples, & every good leader has an accountability team of wise people or a board) I now gear my ministries, serving, work, & career around those discoveries so that I may be best be utilized, enjoy, & succeed.

How about you? Do you know what your purpose, or “Ikigai” is? Do you have a personal and/or family Mission Statement? Would you like to discover, write one out, & live it?


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Weight Loss New Years Resolution…

weightlossI hear it all the time from others, and even have said it myself. This year I am going to lose weight, eat healthier, and exercise.

However, why is it that most of us fail? Or within months or weeks give up our goal and efforts to accomplish that New Years Resolution?

Some say it is so easy and quick just to eat unhealthy.  Or the cravings got the best of me.  Or I just do not have the time or energy…

Actually if we think about it in todays world, with all the information we have, it actually is not that difficult to eat more healthy, and find some time to exercise. We all often may find time for what is truly important to us. Is our life and better health important to us?  If is important to those we love and that love us?

First of all, almost every fast food restaurant these days have menus that are healthier. From that grilled/baked chicken and fish; or to many choices for salads and fruits. So instead of getting that double decker greasy cheeseburger on white bread, choose a grilled chicken wrapped in lettuce or pita/corn wrap. Instead of that sugary soda, drink water or juice instead. In addition, why not take 10 minutes before you go to bed and pack your lunch with a turkey, chicken or tuna sandwich on 100% whole wheat/whole grain bread. Add some fresh fruit, raw vegetables and natural fruit juice? Get baked vegetable chips as snacks. Add some nuts too.

I understand finding time to exercise can be tough. There is only so much time in the day. The thing is a person does not necessarily have to have this time consuming exercise plan or an expensive membership in a gym waiting for a machine or weights to be available. A simple morning walk mixed with some sit-ups, push ups, and squats could suffice for beginning a routine and habit. A 30 minute work out such as this may make a monumental difference. Whether it is the first thing in the morning or in the evening when you come home. Instead of getting into the car to drive a short distance, hop on your bicycle and ride to the store or a friends house.

Some may be saying this all sounds good, but this doesn’t work for me. I am just too over weight and have too many things going on. First of all, unless you have an illness or a physical situation, disability or handicap; you can do this. It is said it takes about 21 days to develop a habit. Simply try some of the things I am outlining for 21 days.

The objection may be, you do not know me. It cannot be done. Well, let me share some things with you. About 4 years ago or so, I weighed 260 lbs with a 46″ waste. I am now 215 lbs and a 36 waist standing 6’2″. I have maintained that range for several years. So what changed? I decided my health was worth it. I also decided my children deserved a healthy father.

I began juicing, fasting, and exercising. Not immense exercising or weight training. It was similar to what I eluded above. I bought a Ninja Bullet frozen and fresh fruits and vegetables and drank that as a smoothie each morning. I also added plant proteins to my smoothies and took natural vitamins and minerals. Although I had and still have some health limitations, I did sit ups, push ups, squats, some free weights like dumb bells and bought a bicycle to ride as often as possible.

Some may have injuries and bad backs. Trust me I understand that challenge. I completely tore my rotary cuff and dislocated my shoulder in the marital arts. I damaged my back and neck in a car accident many years ago. I also broke 15 bones back in 2016 and in a wheel chair for 3 months. Just consult with your doctor, and take his advise as well as stretching and strength building advice. My orthopedic surgeon, sports medicine professionals, and neurosurgeon outlined several stretching techniques, strength building, and exercises to build up around areas of injuries and the muscles that support it that made a world of difference.

The Fasts I did were the 21 Day Daniel Fast, and interjected the Mediterranean Diet in between at times. I strive to do a 21 Day Daniel Fast every 4 months. I cut out as much white bread as possible and only eat whole wheat and whole grain if I can help it. I rarely eat potatoes, and strive to drink bottled spring waters like Voss, Fuji, Ice, and other vitamin enriched, electrolyte infused, and natural fruit infused waters.  I rarely eat desserts, when I do its a special treat. Certainly not at every meal.

Some people have said, it costs to much to eat healthy. Not really unless you go out and buy a bunch of “fancy” diet meals, “organic” labeled food at your local “yuppy” grocery stores. Simply buy more fruits, vegetables, and nuts, especially when they are on sale. Instead of that fatty cheap beef, get as lean as possible if you feel your craving is so strong that you must eat red meat. Buy more chicken and fish and grill or bake it. If I can help it, I do not eat fried foods. Stay away from fried foods, and if you feel you have no choice, then fry with 100% Olive Oil. Granted I have a weakness for chicken wings, and ribeye steaks but am trying to gear that down for just special treats. When you have to get “fast food” do not order those sugary drinks, order a courtesy cup of water. Often you save $2 right there. Order salad, fruit and off the grilled menu and remove the white bread.  Subways has a healthy menu that describes the contents and calories in their meals. (So do many fast food restaurants these days) You can get a foot long sub on whole wheat for $5. Eat one half for lunch then the other half for dinner, drink water, or electrolyte and vitamin enriched naturally flavored waters instead of sugary high calorie sodas.  If you have to snack, do it with raw vegetables, fruit and nuts. Drink plenty of water. At one point in my life, I was able to eat on about $7 a day for weeks.

Buy whole grain or vegetable pastas. They are available at any grocery store instead of that “enriched” white pasta. Switch all of your “enriched” white breads to 100% whole wheat/whole grain. Eat smaller portions. You do not have to eat until you are “stuffed” eat until you are simply content and fed adequately. Eat smaller portions and meals more often.

Some may say there are just a few vegetables, fruits or nuts out there and I will get tired of them. What? There are a lot of vegetables and fruits out there, and I wager more selections and uniqueness than any meat. There are over 20,000 editable plants in the world. Every fruit have hundreds to thousands of varieties. There are estimated to be about 7500 types of apples and 1600 types of bananas alone. To put that in perspective, if you ate a new type of apple each day, it would take you a little over twenty years to try them all. For the bananas, it’s a little over four years. This goes similar with nuts and beans.

There is a saying that we are what we eat and a body in motion stays in motion.  It is true. Try some of these ideas and practices I have eluded. It may work. It did and does for me. Try some of them for 21 days and develop a habit.  This habit may decrease your weight, make you feel better, help you sleep better, and increase your energy levels. It did for me.  However, always first consult your physician before any diet changes or physical activity changes.

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Are you contagious?

Optimism is contagious, conversely, so is negativity.

Don’t believe me? Try it. When you go to work tomorrow, or with a crown of people. Try saying something positive, praise someone or something, Share a positive story or how you have been blessed lately or thankful for something. Another day, complain about the weather or something wrong/negative that happened to you. Then sit back and see what happens.

The Law Of Attraction is a real thing. Try focusing on the good & see how it may return. Bless someone & see how you may be blessed. Count more things that you are thankful for, vs things you are not.

Optimism & Positively is contagious, so go out & catch that bug.

Blessings & Peace.


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How about doing a “Self Discovery” as a New Years Resolution?

How about doing a “Self Discovery” as a New Years Resolution?

Here is something I began a few years ago.
1) Take the Meyers Briggs Personality Typology and discover what your 4 letter Typology is. There is a wealth of information on this subject & what job best fits your personality typology as well as people. I took it a few times & mine lands the same every time.
2) If you are a person of faith, you are probably familiar with Spiritual Gifts. Well the organization & study curriculum called Networks has a 10 week study & workbooks to help you discover your top 3 Spiritual Gifts & ranks them according to strength. Helps you discover what you may be best fitted in serving in your local church, other ministries as well as your career path(s). I took the 10 week study through my church.

3) Love Languages. Gary Chapman has written a great book that is called The 5 Love Languages. It may help you discover a better connection with your wife or dating partner on how you both prefer to be loved. It may help also in finding the right person to date for you.

You do not have to go out a spend an arm & leg for these things. A lot of churches offer them for free or a small fee. You employer may even have several Personality Test programs for free within the HR department as they often use them to better place people in certain positions in the company. “Lite” versions of all of the above may also be found on the Internet too.


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stress, Stress, STRESS!

Stress, stress, STRESS!
It happens to us all. So many things in life may cause stress & it is not healthy. Trust me, I have had more than my fair share of stress. So what are some ways to help relieve stress? Here are my TOP 10 of some actions, & techniques I use to relieve stress.
1) Breath in slowly & exhale slowly, Even add the counting to 10 and then count backwards if you have to. Often when under stress we do not breath enough & take in enough oxygen. So breathing in this manners helps the intake of oxygen. It also allows you to be enough distracted as not to allow stress or anger to escalate.
2) Soft or inspirational music. I have always enjoyed music and it may often provoke a certain level of calmness as well as energy. I wake up each morning listening to inspirational music as well as end my day with inspiration, classical or softer music
3) Exercise. It doesn’t have to be a full blown work out plan or a visit to the gym. Simple set-ups, push ups, & squats may suffice. And plenty of stretching. Exercise allows you to also “burn off” some aggression as well as distract you from focusing on things that my be bothering you and hinder ruminating.
4) Go to the fridge and grab a couple ice cubes. Yes, ice cubes. The shock of the cold ice cubes in your hand may often provide both a calming effect, as well as a distraction enough for you to calm down, and think more clearly. Rub them in your hands a few times.
5) Prayer. Prayer allows you to unplug from the world and plug into God. He is always listening and wants to hear about what is bothering you. Ask him to remove it from your mind and heart. Ask him to take these burdens over, and give you clear direction on what you should do.
6) Read or write. I know, it can be tough to read and focus if you are stressed out. However, reading the bible in the book of Psalms has often worked for me to relax, as well as rejoice in Gods favor and wisdom. While I mention wisdom, the book of Proverbs is excellent for learning about wisdom and you may often find a “golden nugget” or two on how to handle the stress of your current circumstance.  In regards to writing, I like to write, as well as keep a journal from time to time to vent my frustrations or work out and through my stressors, Or to write out how I am blessed. Basically take a “blessings inventory”.  If you truly take a few minutes to count your blessings, you may find that your stress is rather minor in comparison to how you may be truly blessed.
7) Take a “Time Out” Yes, put yourself in time out and meditate. Hum, whistle, even sing softly if you have to. Either way it may be good to take a little time out, to calm down, reflect, re-focus and re-energize.
8) Perform a random act of kindness. It may be difficult at times to ruminate on your own worries, obstacles and challenges when you are blessing or serving others. Just do it with a generous, and open heart, and you may discover it is an excellent way to relieve stress and realize you may not have it so bad after all, and you benefit others and make a positive impact in another’s life.
9) Call a trusted friend that you may confide in. Allow this true friend to be that listening ear and provide some wise counsel and proactive instruction
10) Take a power nap. Some of the reasons you may be overly stressed and things are beginning to get to you is that you are sleep deprived. It happens to people that they may not even realize it with their busy and hectic schedules. Statistics have proven that a power nap every now and then can be energizing and recharging. So if you are able, and your work schedule may be flexible enough, instead of eating a heavy lunch, grab a quick salad and use the other 30 minutes for a brief power nap. And by all means work on a schedule and develop a habit to get at least 8 hours of sleep in. Even if you have to start going to bed earlier.
Blessings & Peace,
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Speaking prophecy over yourself?

“Speaking prophecy over yourself” Growing up have you been told “you are not smart enough”, “you are not good enough”, “you are ugly”, “you are weak”….? We have control over what we accept to believe, or think about ourselves. We have control over what takes territory in our hearts, minds as soul. God has also spoken a prophecy over you, & He made you for a purpose. “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare] and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jer. 29:11. “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:14. “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9. “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” – 1 Sam. 16:7. Do not accept the words of unwise people. Do not allow a prophecy of mere humans over you. You are a wonderfully miraculous creations cherished by your heavenly father. Do not let harsh words steal your joy, and put it in your back pack. Let it all go, and celebrate your beauty & ability that God blessed you with.



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