“Where are all the good people…”


Sometimes while I cruise through Facebook I see a post every now & then by single women stating, “Where are all the good and real men?” or even by single guys stating, “Where are all the good women?”

I know it’s somewhat of a personal question to post on Facebook, but some people post much more personal questions & things, it seems, at times. I have personally experienced this question/quandary myself at times. In my free & personal time, I am around a lot of people through church, ministries or non-profit/charities. In my career, I am in a people oriented profession too. One ministry I helped lead was a somewhat large Men’s Divorce Recovery & Re-Building Group, as well as a couple other Men’s ministries & even a Singles Group & Single Parent’s Group. And often the question is brought forth, “Where are all the good people who still believe in true love, commitment, loyalty, chivalry…?”

I too, must confess, I have had those questions too, even to this day. I think that all too often people may want too much too fast, or they may have been hurt so deeply from a past relationship(s) they are not comfortable being open enough to give a relationship a chance. In other words, they see their present, and/or future through their past. Or they have possibly become too scarred by the past, to heal for the potential of the present and future. They may begin to see each date, or relationship as a deep vetting process to search for and see all the bad, verses seeing all the good and potential. Then again, with social media, the Internet, 24/7 news, the want it now, have it now, and then who’s next or what can I find that’s better mentality has diminished the importance of deep, true and long lasting relationships. Also a person may say they want a “Christian” person/ a “Man of faith” a “Woman of faith” but want them to compromise their beliefs or convictions for a “pleasure of the moment or night.”

One must realize that people of faith do tend to live (as well as love) by a code or moral compass. So if you are a person seeking a “person of faith” you should not begrudge them for what convictions may come along with that. I believe you should respect and expect it.

Working close within Men’s Groups, I know there are real and great men out there that just want to find a woman who truly loves, and respects them and that they may love, honor and respect too. They are Christian men that do have certain standards, & convictions which may not be for every gal. However, I never consider that a negative in a real man, as I believe real men have strong faith, and are not ashamed of it. They also, typically, know how to love deeply & intently, protect, work, and care for a woman & a family and strive to live by a certain code that in my opinion should be respected and often admired.

If you are a single person and cannot seem to find the “real” and “good people” out there, maybe it might be that you are looking in the wrong places, or around the wrong people, or that you are not being still or quiet enough to listen to what God has in store for you right now or in the future. Maybe you, including myself, have not prayed enough about it, nor been patient enough. The best thing I believe is to always be yourself, the best version of yourself, and who God may be molding you into, as He may also be molding the other person for you to meet soon, maybe even today. It is always best in my opinion to be honest, & true to yourself. It is better to be disliked for who you are than liked for who you are not. If you desire to attract someone that has similar goals, interests, passions and desires, it is always better to be true to yourself first, love yourself, and be your true self. ~ end of deep post. Make it a great day!

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Today is SONday, 11/19/17…

I make it no big secret that I am a biker & that I have a heart & passion to serve & help those who think they have lost everything & without hope or purpose. Those who have sought to find answers & releases from their past, or present pain & circumstances through alcohol or drugs. The thing is that Christ came for all, each & every one. Christ Himself came of lowly means, & served, taught & healed the lowliest, some of the most “sinful” with love in words, actions & deeds. He says, “Come just as you are, skin & bones, & broken heart” Trust me He wants you wherever you are, not matter what you have done, regardless of your past, shame, or regrets. Today, is SONday, just PLEASE simply come, come just as you are.

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How are you going to use your Gift?

You can seize the day or you can let the day seize you. From the moment you wake up you have a choice. You can embrace a new day of opportunity, and count your blessings. Or you sulk in the situation of your challenges, & make excuses. Yesterday is the past, it’s a cancelled check. Tomorrow is worth planning, yet it is only a promissory note. Today, is now, it is a gift, that is why it is called the PRESENT. How are you going to use your gift today?



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Do you “get it”?

Visualization, changing your own articulation, & attitude can change your altitude. Say, you “get” to go to work, not you “have” to go to work. Say, I “get” to mow the grass, instead of I “have” to mow the grass. Say, I “get” to go to church, verses I “have” to go to church. Say, I get to exercise & go to the gym, vs I “have” to go to the gym.

Trust me, the person who is out of work, wished they had a job to “get” to. The person who lost their home, wished they “got” to mow the grass. Those is countries without faith freedom, wished they could “get” to go to church in the open & worship freely. The person who has suffered physical injuries or illness wished they could “get” to go to the gym.

Change your thoughts, change your words, may change your life, & then you may say, yes, I GET IT!



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What is in your back pack?

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What’s in your back pack?

backpackers3A few weeks ago I joined a rather large group of men on a camping trip. We hiked what we were initially were told “about a mile” that ended up being around three miles one-way. Now it wasn’t so much of the distance that ended up making it extremely challenging, it was the weight of my back pack, and the extra duffle bag and a bulky rather heavier than usual sleeping bag. In addition the hike up and down steep hills in the mud made it even more challenging.

The weight of the back pack I estimated at around 70 lbs, and the duffle bag was at least 50 lbs. Well needless to say I had to take a few breaks until one of the other men had to threaten me to get me to hand over the extra duffle bag and sleeping bag. I…

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A good message on “Margin”

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“I Can Handle It”

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Source: Happiness…

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May is Mental Health Awareness Month

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Statistics by the Centers for Disease Control states that 50% of all Americans will suffer from a mental health crisis and that on average every American adult will suffer from at least two bouts of depression in their life time. (Source: CDC, NAMI). Anxiety is actually the most common mental illness affecting 40 million American adults 18 years or older. 18% of the American population. Major Depressive Disorder affects 14.8 million American adults, or 6.7% of the American population. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD affects 7.7 million American adults or 3.5% of the American population. (Source: Anxiety and Depression Association of America. ADAA.) 5.7 million or 2.6% Americans suffer from BiPolar Disorder. (Source: Depression and BiPolar Support Alliance. [DBSA].) Obsessive Compulsive Disorder affects about 5 million American adults or about 2 to 3 percent. (Source: Psych Central). About 1 in 20 individuals live with Borderline Personality Disorder. (Source: NAMI.) These statistics are from those that seek help, and obtain a diagnosis. Imagine what the numbers might be with those who don’t seek help. Mental illness is now being called the “silent epidemic.” The good news is that these mental illnesses can be treated and recovery for many mental illnesses is not only possible, it occurs. Unfortunately there is still a stigma associated with depression and other mental illnesses and often people don’t seek help. Often because of fear of being out-casted to even shunned due to the stigmatization associated with mental illness. This stigma needs to stop. Stigma is caused because of the lack of education, knowledge, wisdom and empathy about mental illness.


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“Broken Hallelujah”

Everyone has a story. Some of us have heard them while praying with grown men on their knees in tears, single mothers & widows with no where else to turn nearly giving up all hope, women/men/children with emotional pain so deep it’s nearly unfathomable. People with addictions that has nearly taken their lives, and/or it has taken the life of loved ones. Poverty on such a large mass scale it brought me to my knees. Life is not fair. No one promised anyone a rose garden. Even Christ said there will be times of trouble & tribulation. Just because you are believer does not secure an easy life. However it does secure eternal life with a God with so much love a dictionary cannot define it. So to those hurting, or have been hurt; when you feel as though you have no where to turn, and cannot even stand, then kneel; because God is listening. May it help to sing a “Broken Hallelujah.


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