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Be Coachable

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Be Coachable

Better was a poor and wise youth than an old and foolish king who no longer knew how to take advice.” — Ecclesiastes 4:13

Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth.” — Proverbs 4:5

Be coachable. I have had the privilege, blessing and challenge to coach and be coached sports, lead teams on the field, in the gym, in the dojo, in a boardroom, and in the corporate field. Those players or team members that did well, for the long term, were those that were most coachable. Those that were respected the most for their accomplishments, and successes were and are still coachable. Sometimes people do not get this whether they are hard headed, never mature, do not learn the value of humility, or think they have arrived and bask in foolish arrogance.

When I both hired and trained employees, I did not focus on how much education they had, not always the written expertise on their resume; I observed how they spoke, held themselves, the way the can demonstrate in words, actions and deeds they had what it took to succeed. The ones that were coachable, tenacious, optimistic, but humble and respectful.

You can teach product knowledge, policies procedures, plays, and techniques, but you cannot teach the strong desire to succeed, tenacity, optimism, persistence, and work ethic.

So may I encourage you to be coachable, seek wisdom from wise people, apply that wisdom, and in turn teach it to others. Learn humility, because if you think you have arrived, you then shall surely fall. Always strive to improve, to grow, and if you fail, then fail forward. You never really fail, unless you never learn from your mistakes, and get back up.

DW

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So you’re “Billy Bad Ass”?…

First of all, I get a lot of people sharing with me their opinion. Especially what I should say and should not say, write, post, or do a video recording upon as a Christian. The thing is that I know my ikigai (if you do not know that word, I suggest you google it and research it a bit). I also know what I am about, most of my strengths, most of my weaknesses, and to Whom I serve. And the Whom I serve is not necessarily the opinions of humanity. (Colossians 3:23–24)

However, no matter if or how many times I may say that, I still get the scoffs, eye rolls, opinions, and hate mail. In which I am sure I am going to get one with the title I just shared with the word “Ass” in it. Just so those reading this may realize, ass is in the bible, so are a few other curse words, some you may not even realize they are a bit of a curse word the way they are written from greek to english or hebrew to english. I have not changed my perspective that our words should be honorable, encouraging, and edifying. You will rarely hear me curse, not just because our words can give life or death, (Proverbs 18:21). Nor that the fact I am to strive to be a new creation under God and what Jesus Christ did for me being that I am dead to sin, and alive in Christ, (Romans 6:11, Galatians 2:20). It is often the fact that I have been raising children for over 26 years and still raising them. However, sometimes certain words, including curse words, are needed to get a positive reaction, drive home a point, or draw immediate attention.

Let me provide an example. I have friends in the military. Some of them are or were Drill Sergeants, or COs. Now one of the purposes of Boot Camp is to tear out the civilized demeanor of a person, to build them back up to be a warrior that can follow orders extremely well, who can be depended upon in battle or at the time of war. So certain intensity as well as words may be needed to accomplish this. Still don’t believe me? Okay, let’s say you are in the middle of battle, and your leader says in a kind a gentle voice something like this, “Would you mind too terribly Mr. John Doe to pick up that rifle and aim it at that man over there that is shooting at us, please, and pulling the trigger as you are able?” or do you think something like this may get a quicker and more immediate response, “Soldier shoot that ba — -rd, before he blows our fu — g heads off!”

So now that I have shared that perspective and my own opinion before I get another person’s opinion, what does my title of my article mean when I write, “So you’re a Billy Bad Ass”? Well let me expound a bit upon it…

I am obviously a man that has a few decades on him. I was also raised with two other brothers in not the best part of town by some people’s perspectives. I did not realize it. For me, as a child to becoming a man, I thought most all towns were like this for the most part. Being raised were I was, along with two brothers, the circles we were around, and the streets we walked; I learned that most true tough guys were often not the loudest or most boisterous about it. At least the ones that I observed that had true grit, and of an ample character that was well respected. I found the true “Billy Bad Asses” you did not know about, well until business had to be handled, or a person crossed the line.

These “Billy Bad Asses” were more reserved in certain environments. They first were very observant. They seemed to be more about watching of others, observing entry ways, and exits, and rarely had their backs to the door or windows. They didn’t speak of how tough they were, the fights or battles they won. They did not soak in the glory of having to physically tear some one down, or apart. What I also observed is that they were men of their words. If they said they were going to be somewhere, they were there. If they made you a promise, they would never break that promise. If you needed them in a fight for something right, to have your six, whether as a moral booster, verbally, or if it may require it, physically. They were men you could count on.

One early example was when I was in about 8th grade. There was new kid of a slightly different or mixed ethnic background that came to our school. Quickly, the bullies, and taunters came out of the wood works. They would make fun of his clothing, his ethnic background, and often this lad would ignore the words, and taunts and be about his own business, going to class, and obeying the rules. Then it began to get physical. A taunt from a classmate here or there, then a firm push by a bully shoving this new classmate against the locker with a calling out to meet after school for a fight. This new classmate would typically respond rather calmly, but this time he said, “I do not believe you really want to do this, do you?” Of course the bully said “absolutely”, with some other profanity, and the new classmate agreed to meet.

As usual, when the bell rang, there was a gathering just outside the school grounds with the kids shouting, “fight, fight, fight”. One boy pushed the new classmate, while another tripped him and he fell to the ground. Then, I do not believe I have seen a youth jump up that fast with a 1, 2, 3 punch and knock down as I seen this new classmate deliver. The other kid that tripped him began to charge him, and the new classmate punched him so fast with several punches to the stomach, and face that I thought I might be witnessing a young Mohammed Ali. The kids that were chanting, “fight, fight, fight” were now speechless with most of their mouths dropped open. The new classmate dusted himself off, picked up his books, and began to walk home while the bully was crying with a bloody nose while running off, and the other was trying to get his wind back into his lungs while grabbing his jaw and stomach trying to determine what just took place.

I soon found out that this new classmate was a competitive junior boxer, and had been training in boxing for many years. He never told anyone. He never talked a big talk, nor of his victories or years of boxing. I had respect for this new fellow classmate, and to me, he was a true “Billy Bad Ass”. He also became a good friend until he moved away the a year or two later.

As I grew up, I have had the fine opportunity to meet and become good friends, or mentees with several true “Billy Bad Asses” in my life. One is my friend, and mentor growing up, my Master Sensei. He is rather small Japanese man that by looking at him, your first impression was that he may not be the best at handling himself in a fight. He is of small frame and stature. However, you would be very wrong. Even now at the age of 77, he is one of the fastest, and most powerful martial artists I know who can deliver a punch that may make you feel as though you were sent back in time, or out of your physical self. However, he is very humble, rather quiet, generous, and kind. Outside of the dojo, he does not carrying on about any type of battles he has won, how many knock outs he has achieved, how many boards or bricks he can break. Most often, he is more interested in you, what you have to say, what brings you joy, and contentment.

Those that I now may often call true “Billy Bad Asses”, are now what I may call “Violent Men of God”. These men may fear very few other men, if any at all, but Who they do fear is God. They are humble, reserved, and typically first focus on observing you, what you are about, what may also bring you joy and contentment, especially if they like you. They also have no problem taking a stand for what is truly good, sound, and moral; even if they have to stand alone. They are men that I know and confident that they have my back, especially when I need them, twenty four seven. Not necessarily for physical defense or protection, but for moral support, inspiration, encouragement and well as accountability. These type of “Billy Bad Asses”, and/or “Violent Men of God” get their wisdom from the Word, the counsel of other wise men, and their love for the Beautiful Outlaw in Jesus Christ. And yes, they are most certainly Holy enough to pray for you, but Hood enough to swing on you (if necessary).

God has used Violent Men of God to accomplish many things, and I believe He also used them to forge a new nation which is the United States of America. I also believe God still utilizes them to this very day. Whether that is on the battle field defending freedom, in homes with them protecting their families, and yes in churches to protect the congregation. In the Christian Motorcycle Club I am pursuing, these men often hold the title of “Enforcer” or “ Sergeant At Arms” You may not be able to identify them, especially at first. They are often not the loudest, nor the most flashy to draw attention to themselves, especially not their skills. However, what you may see is that they are not too far away, constantly observing, taking the current situation in, and will seek first to get to know you, your intent, and what you are about. Personally, I do thank God for them.

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Marks of a Great Man…

What makes a man g o o d The Scriptures describe several marks of a good man.

My son is and has been at the age he is all about manly things & attentively observing what it is to be a man. Even when I am unaware he is listening and observing. He is 14 at the time I am writing this article/post. It seems many boys strive to seek their masculine identity starting around as early as the age of 10. If they do not find it at home, they will find it somewhere, in something, or someone. So what do I, an old man as I think a great man is? What do I think the Marks of a Great Man are? I agree with much of what Pastor Brian Tome shares in his book, “The 5 Marks of a Man”, as well as what Author John Eldredge and Ransomed Heart Ministries shares in many of his books. However, I am going to list my opinion, perspective & thoughts in a Top 10:

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  1. A Man is a man of his word. His word is his bond. He exudes integrity in all that he says and does. “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.” — Proverbs 11:3. “The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.” — Proverbs 12:22.
  2. A good Man is not a harmless man, a good man is a very dangerous man that has it all under voluntary control. “Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle;” — Psalm 144:1. “When a strong man, fully armed, guards his own palace, his goods are safe” — Luke 11:21. “When I saw their fear, I rose and spoke to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people: “Do not be afraid of them; remember the Lord who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives and your houses.” — Nehemiah 4:14
  3. A Man loves his wife and children in words, actions & deed. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” — Ephesians 5:25. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4–8. “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.” — Romans 12:9
  4. A Man can admit where and when he was wrong, apologize & seek forgiveness with humility. “Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” Proverbs 28:13. “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” — James 5:16.
  5. A Man strives to learn from his mistakes and improve. “For the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity” Proverbs 24:16. “Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,” — Philippines 3:13
  6. A Man takes a minority position for what is honorable, true, and right even if he has to stand alone. “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” — Deuteronomy 31:6
  7. A Man has a vision. He regularly sets goals, strives to achieve them. “May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed.”- Psalm 20:4. “Where there is no vision, the people perish” — Proverbs 29:18
  8. A Man is a provider and a protector. “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” — 1 Timothy 5:8
  9. A Man is a team player. He realizes to be the best he looks to not only a core team, a close and wise circle of influence, but thinks more of those around him, and the team, than he does himself only, be encouraging, inspiring and helping one another with accountability. “Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.” — Proverbs 27:17. “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” — Proverbs 18:24
  10. A Man works and takes pride in what he does as it is good to work, no matter what job, career or position, he works hard as to the Lord and not unto mankind. He ardently pursues excellence in his work, at home, and whatever he lays his hands to, but not perfectionism. ““Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might, for there is no work or thought or knowledge or wisdom in Sheol, to which you are going” — Ecclesiastes 9:10. “Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit,[a] serve the Lord.” — Romans 12:11.  “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,” – Colossians 3:23

Identity : Men : Ten Marks of a Good Man: YouTube Video Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rVCB80Ej20s

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My top 20 Advice to my younger self:

If only I knew what I know now, then.”  Ever said that to yourself, and wished you could have spoken to your younger self?  Say maybe your 18 or 21 year old self?  Maybe your graduating from High School or College self? Well here are my top 20 list of the advice I would have given to my younger self…

1.  read and write more

2.  you have one life, make the most of it it by taking care of your body, mind and soul

3.  practice public speaking

4.  value friendships, develop and cherish close circles

5.  memorizing is not learning

6.  learn to invest

7.  you are not your job

8.  know when to leave

9.  find a mentor, life coach, and health coach

10.  trust your gut

11.  don’t brag, be humble in most any thing

12.  don’t pretend, be authentic, be real. It’s better to be disliked for who you are then loved for who you are not

13.  give more than you receive

14.  know that failure is not final, learn from your mistakes, and grow

15.  engage in random acts of kindness

16.  choose faith over fear

17.  choose encouragement of criticism

18.  choose grace over judgement

19.  learn to relax, exhale, don’t sweat the small stuff, and save for that vacation to go somewhere special

20.  teach what you learn

How about you? What does or would your top list look like to your younger self?

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Back it up…

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If you are going to run your mouth, you better be able to back it up” Have you ever heard someone say that to some one else, or possibly even you?

In a recent trip I got to visit with a founder and leader of a large organization. There were several of us gathered to meet with, speak to , and simply hangout with this particular leader. During our various conversations he had stated, in so many words, “If you are going to be serious about your passion, and purpose while being bold and confident, you better be able to back it up.” He further eluded to the potential of a physical altercation if necessary.

Thinking about this, our other conversations, and my journey in my personal faith, these words have as much physical meaning as it does a spiritual sense. These three simple words may be much more profound than some realize.

In short how do you back up what you believe and what you say?

In the bible we read that Peter was confident of his faith and belief in Jesus. He told him several times to even the point that he would die for Him. However, we also read Peter denied Christ three times before for the rooster crowed. Upon Christ’s resurrection He then asked Peter not just once if He loved him, he did it three times in a row. I believe it was to empathize and drive home a point. Christ response each time was to feed His sheep. In other word’s to teach, love, serve, minister and lead people to His message unto the Heavenly Father.

Words can be amazing in how they are used, and empathized. I have often been amazed on how encouraging, energetic, and inspiring certain speakers can be. However, it is most often true, talk is cheap, and actions speak louder than words. Jesus was saying to His Disciples if they love Him, to feed His sheep, obey His commandments and to serve and love one another. I believe Christ was wanting to see their actions, not words,  from them, and us as believers to live out our faith. I believe Christ wanted His followers to “back it up”. To back up their words with actions and deeds. And inevitably most of them did to painful persecution and even death. Now that is backing it up.

Those who back it up, means their word is their bond.

Unfortunately I have lost count of how many times I have been lied to, deceived, and down right betrayed not just from acquaintances, but those close to me. It mattered not if it were family, neighbor, business partner, or church member. In addition, with the divorce rate in the range of around 53% within the first five years of wedlock, it seems promises to the point of public confirmation, a covenant unto God, and written form, is not taken in very high regard. I am not sure when a newlywed said “for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer“, really meant “until I get bored, find someone better, healthier, or more wealthy“? It seems the words, promises, and commitment seemed to mean nothing later to that percentage.

Those who back it up, do not have to say it, they do it

I remember training in Karate at a young age. I spent many hours not only in the dojo, but at home training. I was passionate about this art. Eventually I became this dojos best competitors and teachers. It was not easy, it took a lot of hard work, discipline, bruises, sore muscles, commitment, learning humility, refining techniques and learning from my errors. However, I never spoke much of my training to others. In fact, I am pretty sure there were very few in my high school that even knew I trained. The only time someone would find out, is if I needed or was required to defend myself or a loved one. Those that typically can back it up whether physically or spiritually do not have to announce it, or talk much about it, but when it comes to needing to demonstrate it, they demonstrate it well.

“What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him?”

I like so many books in the bible, and no matter how long I have been a believer, accepted Christ as my savior, and read the bible; I seem to still gain something new, a deeper perspective, or different view.  That may be why they call the bible, “The Living Word“. The book of James is among my favorites. Believers often realize works is not the way to God, or salvation as there is not enough works, or good deeds you can do to earn your way into heaven. Christ had to pay the ultimate price for the forgiveness of sins so we have way unto the Heavenly Father. However, the demonstration of that faith, the new life a believer now strives to live is demonstrated by not only their words, but more importantly by their actions of their faith. Christ was asking His followers to demonstrate their love for Him and the Heavenly Father by going to all the world and making disciples, baptizing them in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Teaching them all that He taught, and commanded. To love one another with brotherly love. James emphasize the importance of backing up your faith in these verses:

“What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.  But someone will say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith apart from your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons believe — and shudder! Do you want to be shown, you foolish person, that faith apart from works is useless? Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered up his son Isaac on the altar? You see that faith was active along with his works, and faith was completed by his works; and the Scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was counted to him as righteousness” — and he was called a friend of God. You see that a person is justified by works and not by faith alone. And in the same way was not also Rahab the prostitute justified by works when she received the messengers and sent them out by another way? For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so also faith apart from works is dead” – James 2:14-26

You see, although our actions and deeds will not save us, it is, however, the demonstration of our faith. It is a demonstration of our commitment to our faith, and a testimony unto God and His Son, Jesus Christ, what He taught, how He loved, how He served, how He led, and what He did for each of us.

It is us backing it up. Backing up what we say, what we claim, and what we believe.

Some say I may have gotten a bit cynical in my five decades on this earth. They say maybe it was caused by some things that happened in my youth, near death experiences, betrayal, being double crossed by those I trusted, or divorce… That could be a possibility, however I see it more that I no longer, necessarily, listen to mere words of others, I closely more observe their actions and behaviors. Some may say my very close inner circle may be extremely small as I may have “trust issues”, or I may be “too harsh on some”, or “don’t let people in”, however I see it as my inner circles are often reserved for people who hold integrity of high regard. Those who do not just talk, the talk, they walk their talk. People who are authentic, real and not fake. Those that know they do not have to tell me they love me often, as they show it, often. Those that hold to old school values, or what could be called Bushido in very high regard and live them out.

So the investment of time with this leader over the weekend, what I feel he was trying to convey, and what I personally believe as well; If you say you are going to do so something, then do it. If you say you are going to be somewhere, be there. If you say you love some one, prove and show it. If you make a promise, a proclamation, put on a representation, whether a patch, or a cross, then make your actions, deeds, and life show it, even if you have to stand alone, or even if you may possibly have to risk your life. BACK IT UP!

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~ DW

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Is Christmas idolatry?

I may have caught some eyes with that title. Some may be thinking I am going to go on a rant about how Santa Claus is a wicked distraction, or that Christmas trees are an example of false god worship as we lay gifts underneath, or that we should not have carved images of angels, the wise men, the saints, a manger scene, or even a cross as that may be idolatry…. Well, I am not saying that, nor going down that path, or rabbit hole.

My reference for “Is Christmas idolatry?” is that it could slip into that category depending on the intent, motive, and actions of the heart. Let me expound a bit:

Let’s say you mentally and emotionally get so worked up just before Christmas with preparing the home, getting ready for company, wondering what gifts to buy, or if the gifts you are buying are enough. Well, that could be the tool of the enemy. You see, the enemy would like that you get worked up, stressed out, full of anxiety and fear, and well into debt for the holidays. Besides it distracts you greatly from the true meaning of Emmanuel that is celebrated on December twenty fifth.

Let’s say you spend over you budget in new Christmas lights, Christmas decorations and that “Griswold” Christmas tree, and you may not have enough money left over to first stay on your committed budget for the year, but not able to accomplish your tithes, or family giving decisions whether that was for your church or another charity. Well, that could slip into the category of idolatry as well as vanity of you are overspending on decorations to keep up with the “Griswolds” or your neighbors to impress others, verses realizing the true meaning of Christmas, and that Christ Himself came of very humble means, with no flashy robes, or attire. The enemy also enjoys seeing believers slip into the prison of debt. The best decoration you could adorn is to love on your loved ones, and your neighbors and let that Light shine brightly so they see Christ in you, your actions, and deeds.

Let’s say you hit that Black Friday sale, the Cyber Monday sales, and all the sales leading up to Christmas walking quickly by the Salvation Army folks ringing bells, maybe walk around or step over someone less fortunate or homeless, while missing a few church services, home bible studies, or worse yet Christmas Eve Services or Mass because you have to get those discounts and material gifts, right? Well, that could slip into the category of idolatry as you may have put shopping, materialism, and physical gifts above the true meaning of the gift of the child that was born in a manger in Jesus Christ. That He was the example of how we should strive to live by serving, teaching and loving all. That we put sales, above demonstrating our salvation.

The enemy is a cunning deceiver and desires to manipulate you away from God, away from the true meaning of the season. You see CHRISTmas put an end to the chains and separation from God. If the enemy can distract you away from Emmanuel, and the reason for His birth into the world, it is a win for the enemy, which has the potential of larger wins down the road.

The most precious and priceless gift you can give your loved ones is your attentive and engaging time. If gifts are in your budget, that you do not have to charge up debt, and it doesn’t take you away from the true meaning of CHRISTmas, and away from God, then go ahead and give those gifts to you your loved ones. Just do not let what could slip into or be deemed as idolatry distract you from the true reason for the season.

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“Wild Card”

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I still remember a female church leader, at a previous church I attended, state that I was a “Wild Card” and she was not sure what “Mentor” she was going to pair me with for a Ministry this church I had been attending, serving in for several years, and which asked me to sign up for and lead this latest series.
I was not sure how to react to her near taunting statement. Unfortunately there was some unnecessary drama, back biting, gossiping, envy, pride, and basically a couple men acting like boys in a particular mens ministry, all going on at the time, and for a while, of this meeting and conversation. Yes, it was concerning and disappointing, however and unfortunately this kind of stuff happens in church. Yes, there will be “haters” in church, as we are all human no matter in church or not. I replied, “Well Jesus was considered ‘The Beautiful Outlaw’, and I believe as a man, we are all ‘Wild At Heart’ as shared and written in John Eldredge’s other book of the same title.” She then immediately replied with a raised eyebrow, “Do you think you are Jesus?” (It was in a prideful condescending intent). I really didn’t know how to respond to her tone at this point, and I replied with something similar to this “Well, of course not. However we all are to strive to be like Jesus. It’s critical to His message. We will indeed fail & need grace forgiveness but the Gospel, and what much of what Paul wrote, is of what He did for us and we are to lead, love, serve, live & teach as He did, and I do not appreciate how you are being condescending.” Not sure if she liked that response, however further dialogue was not going to be fruitful, and it was apparent by this inexperienced and/or possibly mis-placed/mis-positioned leader. I moved on and eventually it was evident from additional others signs it was well overdue to do so. That decision to move on, find a new church home, ended up being a great blessing for me, and my family. I had wished I heeded to the negative experience and signs much earlier.
The lesson I learned through this experience was there are times to move on, even if you feel as if there is still work to do, and so much energy & effort was already invested, even over the period of years. You see, God may be providing you signs, that eventually you cannot or should not ignore. Sometimes it is applicable as well as biblical to “dust your shoes off” & move on, or time to no longer “cast your pearls before swine”. Secondly, never apologize for the man or woman God is molding you into, your faith, nor your zeal, whether some one may deem it “wild”. You are not everyone’s cup of tea, and you were not meant to be. Think of all the men and women of God that were greatly used by God, were they liked by everyone? Of course not. John the Baptist’s appearance and zeal may have shocked many back then, however He was most definitely used for a greater purpose, God’s purpose. Most, actually nearly all, thought Noah was a crazy fool. Peter was thought to be loud, and reckless, yet Jesus renamed him Rock in which the church will be built upon. Some, especially the “religious of that day” thought Jesus and His disciples to be a bunch of drunkards at times. The list of examples could go on, and on…
My piece of advice from experience and study is; as long as what you are striving for is biblically sound, you are utilizing your Spiritual Gifts, and it is done in love; then keep on keeping on until God tells you to move one, as He did for me in this “Wild Card” situation.
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Where is your “treasure” hidden or invested?

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” — Matthew 6:21

Some may not realize how profound this particular and short verse in the bible actually is. You see our treasure can be much more than just mere finances or associated to currency or material wealth. A treasure to me is anything a person considers of great worth.

For example, time is priceless. You cannot buy more time, and once it is spent, once it is invested, you cannot get more time back. Time should be invested wisely. How are you investing your time? How much time are you investing in your work, verses investing it in your family? How much time are you investing it in unworthy activities, verses investing it in accomplishing your goals, dreams and accomplishing your vision? In the scope of life or even eternity, is it worth work to the late hours and missing your child’s sports games, or recital? I do not think when we are on our death beds that the first thing we may be saying is that we wish we spent more time at the plant or in the office. Remember children grow very quickly and we only have those 18 years to make the most positive impact we may in their lives for them to mature into responsible adults and good parents. Do we invest more time watching our favorite sports teams than we do in worshipping God on Sunday? Do we invest more time in front of the TV or even on social media than we do in interacting with our family being attentive and engaging with them? Do we prefer to serve ourself on daunting activities or shopping for the latest gadget, new toy or favorite third vacation spot, or do we serve others who are less fortunate, hungry or homeless? Do we invest time in making sure we have the most manicured and detailed lawn while the aging widow next door is too weak to mow or to pay to have her own lawn mowed as it grows over?

How about talents. Your talents are gifts from God. Most especially your Spiritual Gifts. How are we using them? I also believe in the saying, “use them or lose them.” If you have a talent of singing, playing a musical instrument, are you using them to make a positive impact in the lives of others? Are we sharing this musical talent with others whether in church, or on the street corner? If you have the gift of conversation or humor, are you speaking to others in an effort to show how important they are? Are we using it to bring a smile and joy to the lives of others? If you have the gift of teaching or leadership, are you teaching and leading others just in the classroom or the corporate boardroom or are you also mentoring a youth, volunteering for your child’s athletics teams, or in a ministry or charitable organization? Your talents are not to be squandered or hidden. They are meant to be used to bless others and give glory to God.

It is okay to work hard to provide for your family and your future. In fact you should work hard at whatever you are assigned to do. You have to work to make an earnings. It is also okay to enjoy relaxation as we require rest and the Creator of the universe rested, so did His Son, Jesus Christ. It is also good to play and enjoy the creations that God has provided. However, the things and people you love and value the most, will, or should at least be given a level of precedence, and everyone can or should carve out priceless time for those they love and to serve others. No one is or should be so busy not to be able to create appropriate margin for what truly matters.

Where are your treasures? Who and what do you treasure the most? For what we treasure we will invest priceless time, our talents, and our financial means.

~ DW

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